Autism

Holidays Away

I live for the holidays! I love to get away, whether to explore somewhere new or revisit an old favourite, holidays are for us, quality family time together.

We have been taking Lachlan on holiday since he was 7 weeks old, we have stayed in youth hostels, hotels and self catering. We have traveled as far North as Inverness and as far South as Windsor, we have never been brave enough to travel any other way than car but we hope to in the future get to Euro Disney so ferry or flying will be a must.

I have to say that taking Lachlan anywhere over night or longer, is a military operation, involving careful planning, checking and double checking. Due to Lachlan’s dietary needs we have to take all the food he will need with us, as there is never any garuntee the local shops will sell oat milk, dairy, egg, gluten and soya free snacks or toddler meals. Can you imagine what 3 meals a day, plus snacks, juice and milk look like?

Lachlan is still in nappies, so a big enough supply of them has to come too, we never manage to go through just one set of clothes a day, in fact getting away with just three changes in a day is usually good going, the big buggy, chewies, medication, some toys, iPad, cups, plates and cutlery.

I have also found it very helpful to carry with us Lachlan’s Autism Report, Coordinated support plan, DLA entitlement letter and my carers allowance letter, these documents are the proof required at entry points to attractions to receive any possible discount on ticket prices, sadly due to others abusing the system they are also the key to gaining the passes which allow disabled children and carers to access rides via the exit points at theme parks. Most importantly of all these documents are vital in the event of having to access medical assistance, firstly because they give detailed information on Lachlan’s disabilities and needs but also because they carry the contact details of the professionals who know Lachlan well and who’s advice may need to be sought. That is everything Lachlan needs.

We have to fit all this in the car, along with ours and the older two’s luggage.

Before we even get to the packing though, I will have called where we are planning to stay to make sure everything is in place. I check where we are planning to stay has WiFi, any length of time without internet access for Lachlan is unbearable, when in unfamiliar surroundings the iPad is Lachlan’s best coping strategy, he can watch his favourites via the iPlayer or Love film, play his much loved apps or access his favourite websites, all are familiar and reassuring to Lachlan. A microwave is a must for making ready brek, a bath as Lachlan is terrified of showers, enough beds that Lachlan can share with Ian or myself and preferably Alex and Hamish in separate rooms, I usually end up sharing a room with Hamish and lastly enough indoor and outdoor space to give Lachlan the freedom to move when sensory seeking!
I will always look for somewhere set well back from any main roads, not too close to any rivers or open water, Lachlan has a passion and dangerous fascination with water. I will have double checked the local amenities, to see there is what we might need to hand and how to access help should we need too, especialy in terms of GP and out of hours cover.

All the planning is worth it though, as once we are away, everything stops! All the appointments, meetings, phone calls, decision making, pressure and stress all stop! For me even just a break from having to think about everything constantly is magical. For a week if we are lucky two we are just like any other family enjoying time away together, all three of my children benefit hugely from having thier parents relaxed, happy and available to only them.

Lachlan loves being away, I am led to believe this is a little unusual for a child on the Autistic spectrum, I am certain it has a lot to do with the fact that each year our main break away is to the same location and we visit the same attractions we visited that very first time we took Lachlan away. Lachlan associates days out and holidays as fun and exciting, we always think carefully before taking Lachlan anywhere about what he will get from the experience.

Last month we headed South to the Peak District, we stayed in a lovely self catering cottage just outside Ashborne. We had an amazing week, I am not sure even Disney could match the magic.

We drove down on the Friday and it was gone 7.30pm by the time we found our cottage, three bedrooms, kitchen and lounge area, the master bedroom had a beautiful four poster bed, the other two rooms both doubles, our intention was that Lachlan would share with his older brother, Lachlan shares our room at home so we hoping for a break from our 4.00am bed visitor. I never did get to spend the night in the four poster bed, Lachlan was having none of it and he ended up sharing the four poster with Ian and I ended up sharing a room with my older son, not quite what I had mind but not a battle worth fighting either.

We visited the local town on the Saturday, Ashborne is a market town with lots of lovely little shops and pubs, the locals were very welcoming and friendly. In the afternoon we visited Duffield railway and all enjoyed a ride in Iris the diesel Locomotive, Lachlan sat at the front with Hamish and loved when Iris chased pheasants off the track.

On the Sunday we took a drive to Twycross Zoo, Lachlan loves animals, he loves to watch them and will spend ages at an enclosure especialy if it is home to one of Lachlan’s favourites, those being penguins, elephants, big cats and the larger monkey species. Twycross, is home to Humboldt Penguins, Snow Leopards, Elephants and they specialise in monkeys, the enclosures were beautifully designed so much so Lachlan could really see all these animals close up. Lachlan loved watching the Penguins antics both above and below the water and we were splashed by an elephant much to Lachlan’s amusement, much to our horror Lachlan tried very hard to get in beside the elephants!
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That night we ate out in the local pub in Ashborne aptly named George and The Dragon, Lachlan coped so well and sat long enough, with help from the iPad for us all to eat a meal.

On Monday we spent the day at Alton Towers. This was meant at to be the highlight of our holiday, the day got of to a bad start with Lachlan going into meltdown, the poor wee chap was heartbroken and hysterical, we couldn’t console him at all, I honestly thought we were going to have to abandon the park and I was standing their torn between doing what was right for Lachlan and not spoiling a much longed for outing to Alton Towers by my older two children, knowing how devastated they would have been had we had to leave. We decided to see if a shot on one of the rides in CBeebies Land wouldn’t help calm Lachlan down, so we headed for the “In The Night Garden” boat ride. Thankfully our day out was saved, Lachlan settled quickly and loved seeing all his Cbeebies favourites. Lachlan loved the rides and activities, his favourites were the Postman Pat van ride, the Zingzilas stage show and Charlie and Lola’s house. Staff at Alton Towers were very understanding and helpful, my only criticism is the amount of loud music they have playing, different theme tunes but as the rides are so close together is just a noise.

On Tuesday we visited the National Tram Museum in Crich, we were not expecting much but were impressed. It was a great family day out, all three children enjoyed wandering round the museum and rides on the old trams, they had a brilliant soft play which meant we could allow Lachlan some much needed freedom to explore and play.

Wednesday was our other surprise for Lachlan, though after his initial reaction to Alton Towers I was not so sure how we were going to get on. We headed to Drayton Manor, home to Thomas Land. I think it is fair to say this was the happiest and most magical day out we have ever had as a family, I always have had a special affection for a little blue engine and dark red bus from my own childhood, but for Lachlan the day was truly magical. I was touched and proud of Hamish and Alex that day too as they happily gave up time in the main park to give Lachlan more time in Thomas land, they willingly took turns on rides with Lachlan. Lachlan loved it all, the trains, the troublesome trucks rollercoaster, Harold the helicopter ride, all of it was so brilliantly put together, the staff were understanding and helpful, at the end of the day the chap manning the Bertie Bus ride Lachlan was really taken with, let the boys just stay on and switched the ride over to always on, so the boys didn’t have to get off between goes, Lachlan was heartbroken when it was time to leave. We have promised to go back again hopefuly next year. If you show Lachlan photos from that day he will tell you “Thomas Land” and even now a month on Lachlan’s eyes still light up.

Thursday we visited The Heights of Abraham in Matlock Bath, we rode on the scariest cable car, so much so I walked the two miles back to the base station! The views were stunning from the top, the Peak District really is beautiful. We all took a trip down an old lead mine, which Lachlan happily enjoyed, I found it unnerving, heights and confined spaces are not my favourite things. Ian and the kids enjoyed the cable car back down.

Friday was our day to leave, we decided that as it was not too far that on the way home we would visit Chester Zoo and stay over night in Warrington. Chester zoo was outstanding. We all enjoyed our day there, Lachlan loved the animals, it was the first time he had ever seen a giraffe, a spectacled bear, lions and rhinos. The enclosures at Chester were everything I had hoped and more, Lachlan was able to see all the animals so closely and clearly, he laughed when the lion roared and the spectacled bear climbed her tree, his favourites as always were the penguins.

Lachlan has been happy to show his playgroup photos from our time away and amazingly has even managed to say a few words about the photos.

All the planning and effort was really worth it.

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Lachlan is now 4 years old and in his final year of Early Years Education (formally known as Pre-school year) we are now six weeks into the first term.

Lachlan is happy, settled and just loves his playgroup this is his second full year there, he loves the ladies who teach, support and care for him and he loves the other children.

I am now glad we didn’t pursue a place in an additional needs setting for Lachlan, I think the other children have learned as much from Lachlan as he has learned from them, as a parent I have been deeply touched to watch Lachlan develop relationships with the other children, who are yet to young to understand why Lachlan is different, sometimes they join in Lachlan’s games and they watch out for him too.

In the first post I wrote about Lachlan starting playgroup,

The road to mainstream Pre School…

There were so many obstacles, in the beginning it felt like too many to possibly overcome.

In all honesty Lachlan and I were terrified. After Lachlan’s first afternoon my heart broke harder than it had ever broken before, I realised that day just how different and behind his peers Lachlan was and I had no idea how to make playgroup work.

I will never forget that day, looking back on it though, it shows just how far Lachlan has come, it proves what seemed impossible can be possible.

Miracles do happen….

Lachlan can talk, in short sentences, everyone who works with Lachaln has fought so hard to get Lachlan speaking one of my biggest fears was how Lachlan would communicate that he was hurt or something was wrong at playgroup, I am amazed to say Lachlan’s solution is to say “I bumped,” sometimes while holding the “bumped” arm, leg or head.

“I bumped,” we have worked out also covers, that something hurts, this has solved a lot of frustration on both sides as now when Lachlan is becoming unwell he lets us know, something is bothering him.

The down side to “I bumped,” is when Ian or I give Lachlan a row the monkey runs to the other and you guessed it with a quivering lip says, “I bumped!”

Lachlan can say in words everything he wants these days, the frustrated “Un’s” have almost gone completely, he is beginning to ask for things too, his favourites at the moment is to say, “I need a biscuit, crisps, cake”, “I need juice”, “bum change”, “build a house, lego”, “go out”, “need a kiss” and my favourite “me and my mummy”.

Lachlan hardly ever cries, hardly ever covers his ears, very rarely headbangs and at playgroup instead of hiding from others he actively looks for interaction from the other children and staff, he has learned to sit reasonably well at snack time and latterly sits very well at story time, especially if a “Meg and Mog” book or “Maisie Mouse”, I honestly would not have believed it possible in such a relatively short space of time that Lachlan could come on so much had I not been a part of the journey.

Don’t get me wrong, there are still many battles to be won, currently everyone working with Lachlan is trying to get him to drink from a cup without a lid, we know he can do it as we have caught Lachlan swigging from abandoned glasses of juice at home and drinking the bath water from his bath toys, but he just won’t do it from a cup!

Safety is a huge issue, Lachlan has 1:1 support at playgroup full-time, unfortunately for all his care givers Lachlan’s climbing ability is outstanding, he has no concept of height, loves to jump from high surfaces, hang’s upside down at every opportunity and loves doing headstands, I have yet to try it but Lachlan really is convinced certain programmes on TV just have to be watched upsides down! Outdoor dangers are another huge concern, as Lachlan has no sense of danger, he still wants to walk straight into the river or out into the road. We have a buggy which is now rarely used and if out on foot we always put a harness with a line on it to act as an extra pair of hands.

Toilet training is a disaster, did you know how much fun it is to be able to make ones own puddles to play in??

Eating is still hard going, though after a huge regression due to illness, Lachlan is now back to making slow progress, he will eat anything provided it is mashed, his dairy, egg, gluten and soya free diet continue, Lachlan’s favourites are “Hairy Bikers Sausage Casserole” and “Beef and Ale Stew”.

I was touched and delighted recently that Lachlan has been invited to Birthday parties, we go along and do our best, we have managed three so far, Lachlan loves parties!

I have heard of and seen two occasions in the last week where Lachlan has wanted to share an activity with one of the playgroup ladies, it was heartwarming to see him go and “ask” the ladies to join in with his games.

Our kitchen is covered in all the paintings Lachlan has painted for us, I still have the very first one he ever did. Going near paint used to result in a complete meltdown from Lachlan. The photos below show just how far he has come. Lachlan now loves paint.

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I guess what I am trying to say and prove in this post is, anything is possible, never give up trying, never give up hope…….

I know in my heart Lachlan will be all he can be, I have no idea where this journey will take us but we will travel together.

I, for a long time felt completely out of my depth with Lachlan, I now believe I can and do make a difference, especially with a little help and guidance from the wonderful team of people known in our house as “Lachlan’s angels”.

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A new year, Mainstream Early Years Education,

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A special Birthday Party

I remember one of the things that hit me hardest when Autism was first mentioned nearly two years ago, was the theory that Autistic children lack imagination, I can remember feeling terribly sad thinking how do you play without imagination?

Recently I have noticed on numerous occasions Lachlan playing in imaginative ways, I have seen him line up my washing baskets, then sitting himself in the front one, happily shouting “chop-choo, woo-woo”, I have watched him crawl around the floor going “woof-woof” I have seen him make “ice-cream’s” with both play doh and sand, handing them out to us all, with a “yum-yum”.

Lachlan frequently pretends to be asleep, making sleepy noises, being a spaceman or rocket and shouting “5-4-3-2-1-BLAST-OFF” while jumping off something is a long-standing favourite, making cups of tea in the bath and building houses out of anything and everything from Lego to lumps of wood, Lachlan does it all.

I want to share what happened one afternoon last week while Lachlan was enjoying some free play time with his play doh.

Lachlan was sitting at our kitchen table with the play doh ice cream factory, happily making cones as he has done on lots of occasions recently, next thing Lachlan is digging in the large box we store all the playdoh stuff in.  We have a fair collection as I never got round to clearing out the bits Alex had finished with, so out of the box come the characters from In The Night Garden, one by one Lachlan lines them up along the edge o the table.  Upsy Daisy, Iggle Piggle, Macka-Packa and the Tombliboos they are all there, next Lachlan gets a large lump of purple play doh, he sits it on the table, to the lump he adds small pink dots of play doh to the top, all the while I am watching curios as to what Lachlan is up to and watching that none of the play doh is swallowed!

What Lachlan did next had me stunned, delighted and yes it brought tears to my eyes!

Around the purple and pink lump of play doh Lachlan carefully arranges his Night Garden friends in a circle, then to my astonishment Lachlan started singing the words to “Happy Birthday”, word for word, when it got to the point of saying whose Birthday it was Lachlan sang, “Happy Birthday to Upsy Daisy, Happy Birthday to you…”

Lachlan then turned to me and said “Upsy Daisy’s Party”

I threw my arms round Lachlan and replied, ‘yes darling, you have given Upsy Daisy a party, a Birthday party”.

All this was witnessed by Lachlan’s speech therapist who was as stunned and delighted as I was.

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Sometimes it’s all just too much…….

Today was Lachlan’s big review meeting and I fell apart in the middle of it!

I was sitting there and it was such a positive meeting everyone was saying how well Lachlan is doing and how far he has come in the last year both of which are true, then I just went to bits………

I wanted to scream at everyone “is this as good as it gets?”

Somedays I feel trapped in a living hell!

Lachlan swings from my curtains like a professionally trained trapeze artist, does headstands on top of furniture, he thinks the dogs bowl is;  in his woods “a paddling pool”, climbs constantly, has opened the oven door, shouts splash at the pot of boiling potatoes cooking on the hob, has chewed through several power cables and flushed goodness knows all what down the loo!! (toilet)

Take your eye of the ball for a nano second and I guarantee Lachlan will no longer be engaged in the activity you left him at. His current favourite is the dogs bowl!

The door goes, the phone rings, you need the loo, on return all hell has broken loose!

I always make sure Lachlan is never in any danger, we are all very aware, but it is exhausting, I don’t even switch off in my sleep, the other night my older son got up to use the loo, I heard water and flew out of bed panicking Lachlan was puddling in the bathroom, this is at 4.00am! Lachlan was of course sound asleep at the foot of our bed oblivious to the fuss. Poor Hamish got the fright of his life!

I need a break, I am done in, I guess I need to fall apart, I have been strong too long, I need to let it all out……

I am so angry with myself…..

I should have seen it coming, I have been listening to Guns and Roses November Rain,  Let it be by the Beatles and lots of P!nk up loud in the last few weeks, my music therapy you could say, a warning that I am struggling though.

The worst bit is I fear I have hurt a few of the wonderful allies who fear they have upset me.

It is so hard to explain the roller coaster I am trapped on, I truly celebrate every little step Lachlan takes with heartfelt joy, I tell anyone who will listen how amazing my boy is but then the frustration grows in me it builds and knawes away, little things that fill me with joy will then break my heart all in one go,

The day I taught my little nephew to ride his bike without stabilizers, I was so proud in that moment I couldn’t have been prouder of that wee lad, but then it hit me, I might never teach Lachlan to ride a bike….

The conversations I have with my nephews when they want to tell aunty Vicki something, I am delighted they want to tell me, then later on I wonder will Lachlan ever tell me about his day in the same way?

It hurts. No matter how had I try to not let it, It really does hurt.

It is the constant immense pressure I feel under to keep pushing Lachlan on, all if Lachlan is doing so well and is happy can’t we just stand still for a little while?

Enjoy the moment?

 

Just breathe.

Lachlan is just a little boy, my little boy.

 

Today it all just got too much, my guard slipped.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Birthday Boy

“What a difference a day makes! This time last night I was in floods of tears feeling robbed and thinking way too much about what other four year olds do on their Birthdays that Lachlan wouldn’t do.

First thing this morning I sang Happy Birthday to Lachlan and he replied by saying “cake” then we had music therapy and Gill played “happy birthday” several times on keyboard much to Lachlan’s delight, we brought out the cards at lunch time and thanks to the “look who got a letter” song from Blues Clues Lachlan opened his cards with help and a huge grin.

A little while later we gave Lachlan the one wrapped present Gran and Grandpa had brought, Lachlan opened it with help from Gran and was delighted with the tractors jigsaw inside.

We then had home visiting teacher in, this was when we gave Lachlan his play table and train set, both my little and big boys have had a great time with it! At tea time Nana and Graham came and we had cake and candles and sang “happy birthday” twice, Lachlan loved investigating the candles, then Hamish gave Lachlan his present, at supper time we sang and had candles again and Alex gave Lachlan her present which both Alex and Lachlan played with for a while.

Lachlan has loved every minute of a stress free amazing day and I have no doubt he knew it was his Birthday, his special day, we achieved so much today, so much that most people take for granted, it is the little simple things that give hope and bring happiness and joy, Vxxxx”

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The Road To Mainstream Nursery Part Two

After the introduction of the weighted vest, life for Lachlan slowly improved, we were to learn that we had to overcome the sensory issues before we could move forward.

As a parent I was to initially fight and question the need for sensory chews and deep pressure massage, perhaps I was still in denial, I just didn’t want my wee man to stand out from the crowd.

Our home visiting teacher gently pushed the issue of chewies, she was right Lachlan needs to chew, the first silicone pendant chewies I bought were destroyed in hours, our OT produced some awful looking ones which were like coiled phone cable in vivid colours, I hated them even more than the silicone pendant ones, but they worked and seem to last, I hated the look though, especially as Lachlan likes to chew on one side with chewie just hanging there.

I hated going out and about and folks staring, I felt we were often stared at because Lachlan looks too big for his buggy, the chewies in my mind only made this worse.  In time I realised though that it is other folks who have the problem, I accepted that if it helped Lachlan live in our world and eased his suffering then so be it, I could live with chewies.

After Easter Lachlan had 1:1 support at playgroup so I no longer had to stay, this was great on one front as I got a break but not so great as I had no idea what Lachlan had been up to and if he was happy, Lachlan was not to happy at me leaving initially either and it hurt to leave him crying, even knowing that staff would phone if he didn’t settle after 5 minutes. We continued our battle for 1:1 funding for initially three sessions from the August, I felt a bit disappointed that was all we were likely to get as Lachlan would be three therefore entitled to a funded place which meant 5 afternoons in theory but without 1:1 that couldn’t happen.

Lachlan started three afternoons a week in August and quickly settled and was happy to be left, so much so that come October he upped his sessions to four afternoons and then after Christmas the full five.  The funding was finally resolved in November something that I am still annoyed about, no parent should be left wondering if her child can go to nursery the following week as the initial funding had ran out.

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The Road To Mainstream Pre School Part One

I had enrolled Lachlan in our local playgroup before his initial assessment, Lachlan was due to start in August 2013, I had spoken to staff when enrolling and explained about Lachlan still not speaking and that we were waiting on assessments, after the EYCAT assessment I had to make the call explaining that Lachlan’s problems were much bigger than we had realised, it was agreed Lachlan would start playgroup 7 months earlier than intended 2 afternoons a week in a small group of 2-3 year olds, the idea was Lachlan would have time to get to know playgroup the staff and children and for them to get to know Lachlan it was also hoped that in time learn to be away from Ian and I.

I think it fair to say that on that first afternoon in January both Lachlan and I were completely unprepared and over whelmed, I never realised how traumatic a change starting playgroup was to be for all of us. I came home that day and sobbed for hours vowing never to put either of us through that again, I never realised how hard it would be or how much it could hurt to spend an afternoon playing with other children, my older two had both gone to the same playgroup and I had always loved playing with the other children when my turn on the rota came round, this was not going to be the same, this was the first time Lachlan and I had spent time with children Lachlan’s age in over a year, there it was, suddenly clearer than ever before just how far behind Lachlan was and also how different. The other children could talk, they could eat normal food, they played with each other and they asked questions.

Thankfully our health visitor had foreseen what I hadn’t and called to help pick up the pieces, she helped to convince us to go back the next day and called regularly over the following weeks, sometimes it is not until you find yourself in a situation do you realise how complicated a situation it is or how much is being asked of you or just how much you are asking of others.

It suddenly struck me how vulnerable Lachlan was, I realised I was going to have to place an enormous amount of trust and faith in the playgroup staff, I realised Lachlan was not going to be able to tell me if something was wrong, he was not going to be able to tell someone if he was hurt, or if he needed or wanted something and it terrified me.  We were at this point, just about getting by at home, with Lachlan taking us to everything he wanted or pointing and making very determined sounding tones but in an unknown environment that wasn’t going to work.

That first afternoon Lachlan clung to me in playgroup with his hands on his ears we tried to join in but every activity we went to sparked off tears and very stressed sounding goodbyes from Lachlan. The next day was better, the next week worse, Lachlan and I found ourselves on a bit of a roller-coaster of highs and lows over the coming weeks, for every step forward there would be one back, part of the problem was we were all learning, Lachlan was learning how to be somewhere new with other children and adults, the staff were all learning about Lachlan and global developmental delay and the autistic spectrum as was I at home, it was awful due to the lacking services being asked questions about why Lachlan did things or what Lachlan needed and not really knowing the answer.

Reluctantly at the end of February I asked our GP for a referral to be made to Social Work to try and make some headway in terms of support for us all. I will be honest and say at that point I strongly believed Lachlan needed to be in a specialist educational provision, he just didn’t belong in mainstream, it felt a bit like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole, no matter how hard we all worked at it, it just wasn’t happening. Lachlan was so stressed all the time, he wouldn’t eat, either wouldn’t sleep or would sleep all the time, wouldn’t wear clothes, was banging his head all the time, I hated seeing him so distressed and miserable.

I called the education department to ask what additional support Lachlan was entitled to and to ask about how to apply for a specialist setting, as Lachlan was not yet 3 he was not entitled to any support at all and Lachlan could only attend a specialist setting if referred there usually after a period of time in mainstream.  I arranged for us to visit the SEN nursery 20 miles away from our home, there are only 2 in our region the other is 30 miles away, it was very impressive and everything I could have wanted for Lachlan, they had classes of only 6 children all children had 1:1 care, everything was laid out and designed with additional needs children in mind, there were sensory areas, outdoor areas, there were picture cards everywhere, it felt very right, the children there were just like Lachlan too. I went home and asked again for a placing request to be made for Lachlan we were then dealt the blow that integrated children’s services would never agree to fund a child Lachlan’s age traveling so far in escorted transport plus Lachlan’s needs were not in their eyes great enough to warrant a place. I never was happy with the idea of handing Lachlan over to strangers to get to and from nursery my intention was, had we been offered a place I would escort. It was awful feeling Lachlan didn’t belong anywhere. We had to find a way to make playgroup work.

A huge turning point came when Lachlan’s grandparents bought him a weighted vest, very quickly Lachlan became a much calmer little boy, I will never forget the afternoon he first sat still for more than a minute; Something Special had come on TV and Lachlan had stopped to look, that day for the first time he stayed and watched the whole episode, it was as if before the vest Lachlan couldn’t bear to sit or be still, suddenly Lachlan could concentrate on taking part, suddenly Lachlan and I could do puzzles and play.

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